Since I’ll be headed up to the mountains with “CAP” today I figured I’d post a intentional piece for girls. I came across this article, by Tara Hedman, and I think that it is a great reminder: I’m spending the morning waiting for my car in the repair shop. Four men in flannel (I missed […]
Category: Psychology
Teachable Moments
You know that moment when your 5 year old says, “Hey, dad where do babies come from?” …but when you really think about it, all she really want so know is, “they come from mommy’s tummy.” Has that happened to you, yet? If it hasn’t, it will, and I want to encourage you to field […]
Let Them Fail – Big Deal Behavior (8 of 8)
“But if I don’t help him, he won’t be able to do it…” Is that right? or is the truth, that if you help him he will subconsciously think that you don’t believe he can do it on his own? I believe the question truly becomes, “is their need for help simply your perception? does […]
Vocabulary Words – Big Deal Behavior (7 of 8)
“Now, I expect your assimilation concerning my regulatory statutes, and that you understand their pertinence according to what we have deemed acceptable in any singular situation.” (For child’s response see picture above.) We often think about adjusting our vocabulary for the sake of a child that doesn’t understand all the words we may use […]
When They’re Wrong – Big Deal Behavior (3 of 8)
So you say, “O.k, I’ve got the positive reinforcement down. I don’t have a problem lifting them up when they make the right choices, but…” (and that’s a big but). Kids don’t always make the right choices, do they? In fact, I can guarantee that you will deal more often with a child who has […]
Positive Reinforcement – Big Deal Behavior (2)
When it comes to motivating people, your children included, making a bigger deal out of a simple act of correct behavior can be very useful in directing them… the simple term is positive reinforcement. However, seeking to be honest, I often got caught up on having to “manufacture” a bigger response than I would naturally […]
Big Deal Behavior (1 of 8)
My youngest daughter, who was 9 at the time, decided one night to empty the dishwasher without being asked! Has this ever happened to you? Did you make a big deal out of it? Make your child feel like they won the lottery? This leads to a concept that has been a BIG part of […]
Care to Know Your Children
Do you know your toddler’s favorite book? or food? Do you know your elementary child’s favorite color? or flavor of ice cream? Do you know your Middle Schooler’s favorite subject? or band? or app/game? Do you know your High Schooler’s favorite fast food joint? At the end of the day, children are very in […]
George Washington did it! – Name Calling (3 of 3)
Words are powerful! How you talk to people is just as important as what you say! This is no truer than when you are speaking to your children. Often however, we relegate this thought simply to the negative side of the equation. I want to encourage you to utilize this reality to powerfully build up […]
“Consistency” vs “Constantly”
Any Guru, parental advice columnist, or grandparent will tell you that the most important thing to be as a parent is consistent. Well… what I’m going to tell you is going to… “go right along” with that! The reason they will all say that is on the other side of parenting, is this thing that […]