We live in an age where there are videos of everything. However, I have discovered that when it comes to stories and imagination TV, movies, and videos can be limiting. For this reason, a child
Category: Psychology
They WAY you talk to your children
Communication. It’s necessary. It’s important. But be careful, how you talk to your children. In the last post I talked about engaging, and asking questions to your children in an effort to begin conversations. Now, lets talk about the way we talk to them when the utility of communication is all that you are looking […]
Are You Listening?
I thought about writing on how to talk to your children. In fact that part is already written, but I want to write, to you first, on the listening part, because we ought to do more of that! Don’t just talk. Listen to what your children have to say (especially once they hit double digits). […]
Your Kids Are Always Watching
Sometimes we gloss over the word always, but I have chosen that word intentionally. They are ALWAYS watching. Even when they say they don’t care, your children are watching you. Even before they have the ability to accomplish the speech, actions, or habits of your life, they are keeping an eye on you because you […]
Don’t Talk “Down” to Them
When my second son was around two, we were sitting at a restaurant that had butcher paper on the table tops. My older son was sitting in a chair next to his mother, and on the other side (the booth side) of the table is where my second son and I sat. As we waited […]
Build a Trust Relationship
One of the most difficult parts of being a dad, is consistency. The patterns that we live by are picked up by our children and become part of their “normal.” The trouble is if you have a habit, or pattern of behavior that is not something you are proud of there will be no […]
R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
(“…find out what it means to me” — Aretha Franklin) Society tries to teach us that respect must be earned, or deserved, before it can be given. I disagree. Especially when it comes to children. Most parents would agree that unconditional love is the key to a healthy upbringing, and on paper that sounds like […]
The Model of a Man
From the moment your child was born you were their hero. In fact, there is a massive correlation between how your children see you and how they will someday see God. You gave them life. You were the difference between life and just another egg that got discarded from their mother’s womb during her “time […]
The Lebron James Analogy
Imagine if you were playing a pick-up basketball game after work, and Lebron James just happened to be passing by, he saw a drive you took to the basket to score, and then made it a point to stop and tell you that it was a nice move. You would be beside yourself thrilled (if […]
Just Try
About three years ago, I had an opportunity to be part of a mission trip to Nicaragua, with my son. We went to the informational meeting primarily for my son Wesley who was 15 at the time, and part of his “15 Year Challenge” include going on a mission trip that year. At the meeting, […]