The child still in the womb, was the example, blaring in my face, as the responsibility He was talking about. I realized, at that time, that taking care of a family is the biggest responsibility that we can be given as men. Yes, more than any job a man could possibly hold – the President of the United States of America should be a father first!
Category: Discipline
You Are The Adult, ACT Like It
The whole reason your children have parents is to help them work through the issues that God allows into their lives and to teach them to do the work themselves. Too often many parents, myself included, take it personally when their children act foolishly… Remember, they are children, foolishness is bound up in their heart. It is normal for a child to start out foolish, your job is to help them through it, not react to it.
Bombs, and Knee-Jerk Reactions
Your kids will fail. Do you explode when they do? It’s important for them to know that they can talk to you when they fail. They will also speak to you inappropriately – they’re kids. I’m not saying allow them to do so, but don’t allow them to shape your attitude, based on their foolishness. Your job is to shape theirs.
King David was “The Man!”
When the ark of the covenant was finally brought back to Israel, King David was overjoyed. He was so filled with a spirit to worship, and praise to God, that he danced before the ark with no regard for who was watching. This is one of the reasons he was called a man after God’s […]
Let Them Fail – Big Deal Behavior (8 of 8)
“But if I don’t help him, he won’t be able to do it…” Is that right? or is the truth, that if you help him he will subconsciously think that you don’t believe he can do it on his own? I believe the question truly becomes, “is their need for help simply your perception? does […]
Using When They’re Right, When their Wrong – Big Deal Behavior (6 of 8)
There was a great amount of time, in the elementary years of my children, that I simply was at a loss of how to train certain elements of my children’s character. When you get passed the early development: demonstration and instruction, there comes a time when you start desiring more complex concepts like wanting them […]
Doing the Motions – Big Deal Behavior (5 of 8)
There was a great amount of time, in the early years of my parenting, that I simply was at a loss of how to train certain elements of my children’s character. I knew that I wanted them to be responsible and diligent but “how do I train that?” I wondered. I happened upon the idea […]
The Garage Lights – Big Deal Behavior (4 of 8)
“My child has done something wrong! What do I do now? Do I make a big deal? I don’t really have any positive reinforcement to use according to this! What do I do?” As we’ve talked about Big Deal Behavior we discussed making sure you praise your child(ren) when they do something right, and then […]
When They’re Wrong – Big Deal Behavior (3 of 8)
So you say, “O.k, I’ve got the positive reinforcement down. I don’t have a problem lifting them up when they make the right choices, but…” (and that’s a big but). Kids don’t always make the right choices, do they? In fact, I can guarantee that you will deal more often with a child who has […]