Do you love the mother of your children? In the last blog I talked about that being the number one thing to do as your child’s hero. But what if she’s no longer in your life?
I know that there are many of you who read this blog that may not be in a relationship, much less a healthy relationship, with the mother of your children. This may already be something that has taken place and there is no rectifying the situation. If that is the case for you, then, I would say that the number one thing for you, as the hero of your children is this:
Love their Mother.
God’s plans are the right way to do things, and though He is gracious with our decisions and can restore us with mercy, He doesn’t re-write His nature, or ours for that matter, because of human decisions. God still loves you, I don’t look at you differently, but know that the way God’s nature was set up, still functions the way it was designed. Show love to her.
A HERO STILL PROTECTS THE CONFLICTED LOVE INTEREST
Going back to the comics, there are times when the writers choose to make the hero forsake his love, or she can’t handle being a distraction so she ends the relationship. But do you know what happens? The hero still protects and is concerned for this woman, heroically putting the realities of emotion aside, he genuinely models love as an act of taking care of the person to whom he had pledged his love, once upon a time. You can be that hero! Yes, it will be hard, but you are a hero, you can handle it!
The hardest part of a child growing up with a Mom and Dad who are separated is having to choose sides, and feeling that if they only did _______ better/more/right then Mom and Dad would get along. Don’t make them choose sides! Take up the Responsibility of building up the mother of your children, no matter how she treats you, show her love and model how a Man treats a woman for God’s sake, for your children’s sake, if not necessarily for hers.
The concepts that are included here are for your children’s sake. Research, primarily, using the books that are on the recommended reading list, personal experience, and most importantly the Word of God are what has lead me to compile this blog. Through these concepts, I want to encourage you, wherever you are coming from, that you can look forward through the eyes of the hero God made you to be and see a bright future with your child(ren) achieving the potential that is within them.
You can be the person they already believe you to be.
Don’t believe the lie that it is too late. You are the key to unlocking freedom within them, to achieve great things.
You are their hero!
“WE ARE MEN OF ACTION…”
Dad… I challenge you to build up the mother of your children, if she lives in your house, if she’s wrong, if she has left you (or vice-versa), if she is no longer living. Always build her up, whether she’s present or not.
You can do it! Show love to the mother of your children.